Some days, you don't feel like doing anything. Those days a general malaise seems to creep in like fog off the shoreline. Days when you feel like you haven’t woken up. When you feel like there’s no point. You feel numb, emotionless and less functional.
While days like this could indicate mild depression, it might also be because you’re emotionally exhausted, stressed, or you have a get shit done list that never seems to get any shorter and you just can’t take it anymore.
If this describes you, stick with me and read on. Frankly, I’m at that place right now as I type this. While I don’t feel that gives me any sort of authority as a “motivational” speaker, it means that you’re not alone in it.
Everywhere we look, we’re told to push and achieve. When you hit a wall, the adage is to find a way, over, under, through or around. Frankly though life comes in waves. There is a time to act and a time to sit back. While you can certainly push through the waves and force action, you will quickly exhaust yourself and your resources.
Learning to identify the waves and ride them out will allow you to enter the action wave more effectively and with more energy. The take away, you can get more done when you learn to center and focus.
Allow me to clarify:
Learning to ride the wave isn’t about sitting back and allowing yourself to be tossed to and fro with the waves. It means you are learning to quiet your inner state, tuning yourself to the energy of the moment and working with life here and now.
In this way you move from forcing action to using your energy to identify the right actions.
When we learn to live within actions congruent with our life purpose, energy will come. Action will be a natural byproduct as will results.
So what does this look like? And what do you do with it?
There are times when “life” becomes too much and I lose the drive to get at it. In the past, and sometimes still, I pushed against that. I would try harder, wake up earlier, force myself through the haze. The result would almost always be extreme fatigue, depression and a really short fuse.
Lately, as I get more in tune with myself, I realize that a drop in drive is likely the universe telling me to step back, quiet myself and listen. Or more aptly put, I need to chill out for a but to recover and plan.
I’ve started reading more instead of writing more, making beer instead of soaps, sleeping in a bit instead of waking up at the butt crack of dawn. Basically, just giving myself a vacation from myself. Now that is not to say that I have dropped all of my goals and have given everything up in favor of inaction.
This period is a bit like recharging a battery. It’s a necessity in order for the battery to perform at optimal levels. In the same way, we need to know when we need a recharge. And when we identify that need we need to act. Action through inaction.
Pay attention to the signs that you need to step back for a bit
Relax and look at this as an opportunity to recharge your battery while you look for that next wave
Spend a few minutes each day breathing and being present in the present moment
Practice being okay with saying no