“No man is an island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main. If a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe is the less, as well as if a promontory were, as well as if a manor of thy friend's or of thine own were: any man's death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind, and therefore never send to know for whom the bells tolls; it tolls for thee.”
― John Donne, No man is an island – A selection from the prose
You matter. You're life matters. In the largest of ways and in the smallest of ways you matter.
Let that sink in for a minute.
Read it again.
You matter and you are here in this place, at this time to make a difference.
It may not feel like it, you may not see it but it is immeasurably true. If not for you; your family, your community, your country, your world would not be the same.
This is specifically why social goals are so important. These goals are your opportunity to make a dent in the world, leave a legacy, make waves.
“Heroes didn't leap tall buildings or stop bullets with an outstretched hand; they didn't wear boots and capes. They bled, and they bruised, and their superpowers were as simple as listening, or loving. Heroes were ordinary people who knew that even if their own lives were impossibly knotted, they could untangle someone else's. And maybe that one act could lead someone to rescue you right back.”
― Jodi Picoult, Second Glance
Get your feet under you-Know your starting point
Start your social goals with understanding where you are at right now.
You can ask yourself a few questions to learn your guiding motivations:
What do you do right now?
Do you volunteer?
Do you donate to any charities?
Do you feel like you're a part of your community?
If you could only do one thing to help someone in need what would that be?
What are you passionate, (care) about?
What do you do for a living, can you take those skills and apply them to help others?
Is there an experience in your past where someone helped you?
Once you have your baseline you can begin to develop a sense of purpose and goals.
Assuming you have some social goals-Volunteer once a month at the local food pantry? Donate 5% of your income to wounded warriors, you'll need to track your progress.
Measure Progress-Luckily, this is one of the easiest to measure.
Usually social goals revolve around donations and or volunteer work. Thus you can track your results on a monthly basis as follows-
Time donated per month
Dollars donated per month
Although those measurements are great for quantifying what you've done, you may want to also track the quality. Quality can be measured by the way it makes you feel.
On a scale of 1-10 do you feel like you're playing a larger role in your community
On a scale of 1-10 how proud do you feel for what you've done.
You don't have to save the world to make a difference. For example, my kids hand bags of supplies and notes out to random homeless folks. It's a small gesture, but one that may make a profound difference to them and to others that see it happening.
All you have to do is take that first small step and then keep it going.
“It is not more bigness that should be our goal. We must attempt, rather, to bring people back to...the warmth of community, to the worth of individual effort and responsibility...and of individuals working together as a community, to better their lives and their children's future.” Robert F. Kennedy
“Each of us must rededicate ourselves to serving the common good. We are a community. Our individual Fates are linked; our futures intertwined; and if we act in that knowledge and in that spirit together, as the Bible says: "We can move mountains." Jimmy Carter