Men get depressed. It’s a fact. It happens. And in those moments, we may not see a way out. I understand that this is something we don’t talk about often. After all, showing stress and sadness is a sign of weakness, men are in control of their emotions, men can power through it, and a man doesn’t ask for help. Those are all lies and misconceptions.
The fact is that in 2015, white males accounted for 7 of every 10 suicides in the US. In 2015 44,193 people over the age of 15 killed themselves. That means that 30,935 men were lost that year, 85 every day and just over 3 every hour.
*Data gathered from CDC
The numbers don’t lie and they aren’t getting any better. If you’re going through hell right now, I want you to know:
I’m not going to try to sell you on some pie in the sky, everything is great story. My goal here is to provide you with some concrete things that you can hold on to.
Effects of Suicide on Family and Friends
Suicide is epically devastating on everyone that you know. The trauma that your family will be left to deal with can be so harsh that they aren’t sure they will ever be able to overcome it.
Friends and family affected by those whom have committed suicide will likely experience their own mental health crisis. This can be so bad that in some cases, children who have been impacted may go on to take their own life. In fact, the younger the child at the time of the loss the more likely this is to occur.
While all of this may not serve to make the specific situation which is driving the thought that suicide is the only option, I hope that it serves to remind that there are people depending on you.
Signs and Symptoms of depression
Desperate feelings can be hard as hell to deal with much less comprehend. Occasionally they are short-lived, but other times they can be strong illusions. The thought seems to promise relief from agonizing pain. You might not think you’ll ever act on the thoughts, but you need to take it serious.
Actions to overcome
There are ways to overcome suicidal thoughts. When the moment strikes I hope you’ll think back on these tips:
Look, at the end of the day, we all go through shit. Sometimes that builds up and we feel like we’re losing the fight. It’s ok. You’re not alone in the struggle. You can make it through, you deserve to make it through this battle. It will take guts and courage and hard work, but you can come out victorious. So stand firm.
In the US- https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ 1-800-273-8255
In the UK- https://www.thecalmzone.net/ Webchat
LGBTQ+- Text 741741
State by State list- http://www.suicidology.org/Resources/Crisis-Centers